With a partner?

There are many ways and reasons why people have sex.
For love, connection, revenge, anger, mourning, fun, closure, the list goes on and on.

When you are young, sex seems like it should be something magical. Reading female erotica novels, the author makes every single act of sex seem like it is a magical end of the world moment where you feel your soul connect with your partners.

Yes, this can be true, however only if you are truly in love with your partner.

Sex, just feels good! It reliefs tension, takes your mind away, also feels really, really amazing.

However, it is not always magical.

The first type of sex you will be involved in, for most people, will actually be between you and your first boy/girlfriend. It will be completely awkward if one of you doesn't know what you are doing. A blind leading the blind kind of moment. Fingers fumbling, faces red from slight embarrassment, a feeling of warm, tight, wetness, moaning, pain(if you are an inexperienced female) and done. All within about 1-5 minutes. Have to love the young inexperienced male genitalia. When all is said and done, not very magical, but, felt amazing if it lasted longer then 30 seconds. You start to get addicted to the feeling. The sheer ecstasy that comes from sex is a natural high that everyone can become addicted to.

After you have your first experience, hopefully it was with a slightly more experienced person then you, who can show you how it is done and can make your first time mind blowing. You have your other types of sex.

If your first time was when you got married, well after the awkward moments if you are both virgins, you will be taking any free moment for more sex. Ignoring friends, instead of going out spending hours and hours at home. In bed, in the kitchen, living room, office, perfecting the art of sex with that one partner. Obviously after a few months you will get tired of the usual sex, and want to experiment. Experimentation is AWESOME! But we will go into that later.

If your first time is with a boy/girlfriend and not when you are married, well, there will be LOTS of sex, and depending on age, hidden sex. In your car, at a friends place, in your room when your parents are gone, in a bush, at school, in a bathroom, in a club, elevator. When you are young and sometimes when you are older, sex anywhere is all you want. When you are addicted to sex and just want another fix, it does not matter how you look or where you are.

Of course, once or if you break up with your first partner, you will be devastated, especially if you are female. Some females have a tenancy to be emotionally connected to their partners  and do not see it as just sex. I say some, because sometimes, it is just sex, no emotional attachment, just 2 people scratching an itch.

Other then dating and married sex, there is the awesome "Random Partners" stage. A lot of people go through this stage between the ages for 16-30, and some, never stop until they die.

Whether it is friends who you only use for sex, "Fuck Buddies" or the random hookups in bars, once you start having sex, it is hard to stop. Most people do not do it willingly. More of a forced celibacy if you are one of the few who do not wish to have sex outside of having a long-term relationship.

I do applaud those who only have sex when they are in a relationship, they have the ability to keep it in their pants, though they probably have a lot of personal time with Mr Righty or Ms Vibrator. Shoot, I am in a relationship and I have a date with Ms vibe every day before bed.

However, do not mock/knock the fuck buddy/random hookup until you tried it. Not being connected to another person at the same time as being connected *hehe* to another person is, interesting. It is almost like using a real-life blowup doll, or a vibrator that also squeezes your tits. The best part about the random hookup, you do not have to fake the wanting to get to know someone, the cuddling afterwards, the should I stay or should I go conversation. Just get in, sate some animal urges and leave. Some people say that woman cannot separate sex from emotion. This is not true.

Sex can be just that, Sex. Even though we have evolved over the past thousand or so years, we are still pretty much set in our 3 basic needs. Eat. Sleep. Sex. Whether it is getting bashed over the head with a wooden mallet or being bought 10 shots of tequila, the end result will still be the same.

I personally love the Fuck Buddy.
A friend you can hang out with and have sex with! It is quite satisfying. You get the basic animal urges filled and also some slight emotional connection which is nice. However, if one person starts falling in love and the other person does not....End it. That however was not the case with me and my current man.

We met each other partially through a friend and partially at a industrial night club.
Started the sexting almost immediately. Boy can his mind go when he is texting.
This shit would give you lady wood and make you wet all at the same time.

"-I am going to suck your cunt and lap it up till you scream. My teeth biting and nipping at your thighs while I finger fuck you. Going from 2 to 3 fingers moving faster and faster. Sucking on your tits till you almost come then plunge my cock into your throbbing, wet pussy."

*Drool* And I have to say, was not disappointed.
The first time we physically hung out, which was about a week after we met, we waited until his friend left from a gaming session, he then unzipped his pants and forced my head down to his cock. Mmm nothing better then a forceful guy who knows what he wants. I happily gave him a blow job while he finger fucked me.
The man knows how I work.
It probably helped that he was just getting off his "Man whore" stage where he slept with almost anything female that moved.
Anyways, after that night, we pretty much did the hang out every few days. Fuck around. Play video games, chill out with his friends.
No dating, no I love yous, just gaming, chilling, drinking and fucking.

It was about, 9-10 months before we decided to actually start dating.  At that point, we pretty much were comfortable enough with each other and had feelings of, not wanting that person to touch someone else, that we figured we should try the dating thing.

Apparently it worked, we have been dating for...er...3ish years...I think, I am not much for keeping track of dates. I forgot my moms Bday was today...Thank god for facebook eh haha!

The point is, no matter how you do it, and no matter who you do it with. Sex is good.
That is all

Oh, and if you sleep around, use protection, I have a friend who actively sleeping around with people but has STDs.