Spice it up Pt 1.

Unless you are A sexual (Asexuals, while lacking in sexual desire for any gender, may engage in purely emotional romantic relationships), you will love sex, you require sex, and if you cannot get it, you will masturbate or use devices to help you reach your orgasm.

Since not everyone has the same sexual peak as their partner, or have different fetishes, needs, desires, people will bend, experiment and sometimes dive right into uncharted waters to please their partner or themselves. 

There are so many different fetishes in the world it may be hard to find them all, but I will touch on the major ones. 

First, there are the different types of relationships. All are amazing, and all depend on each couple. There is your basic monogamous relationship.  Just 2 people who don't want anyone else to touch their partner. Many times if you are in one of these relationships, you tend to experiment with toys, porn, BDSM, and other ideas and ways to keep things fresh and hot. 

Whether you are together for 1 month or 20 years, sex is a very important part of a relationship. If you are not having sex, you are pretty much just good friends. ***If you are a couple who is waiting till marriage then ignore what I just said, once you are married THEN it will be a very important part of your relationship.*** If you are not having sex, or if one of you is not getting enough sex, they will go somewhere else for it. Which opens up the Open Relationships, Polyamory, or cheating. 

Since many people have a jealous side to them, the open relationship or polyamory does not really work for some people. Which is why cheating tends to happen quite a bit, in dating and marriages. 

People always blame the cheater. I do not always agree with this. Why do people cheat? One of the main reasons, SEX. 

Not getting any sex at home, not getting good sex at home, or just tired of their partner. 

Yes, they should speak to their partner before they go into the cheating stage, but many people do not know they are going to cheat till an opportunity hits.

One main thing I know about woman. If they find a guy who can give them an orgasm and can keep up with their sex schedule, then they will keep the man pretty much forever. 

I am unable to speak for men, but for many it is mostly about sex, not emotion. 

This can be the same for woman as well. 

Sometimes, it is just sex. 

Keeping things fresh in any relationship is key to a happy marriage. 

Sex in different locations in the home. One of my personal favorites is shower/Jacuzzi sex. So fucking hot. You are already clean, or you will be, the water is warm, hands are everywhere, cock pounding into you as you grab onto the shower curtain or if you have handles for better sex (available in most sex shops) for the bathroom. Not to mention the echo, extra sounds of hot chick sex. Rawr. Plus you can have sex in there any day of the week, any time of the month.

-Sex on the couch, or bending over the couch, if you have one like mine, if you bend over it is perfect level for doggy style.
-Sex in the kitchen, yummy honey or whip cream, jam, chocolate or caramel drizzle so close to your fingertips. MMMM I love playing find the honey! 

Have you ever heard of it? You close your eyes, your partner dabs honey on different parts of their naked body, then you open your eyes and you have to find it, but you can only use your tongue. OMG just sexy hot. I always put extra on my cunt, suck and lick me to an orgasm, so hot. 

-If you have a computer desk, your partner can surf the net, play video games, watch porn, while you sit under the desk and give them amazing oral sex.

-On the Washer/Dryer always fun, especially if they vibrate. 

-For me, I have a pole for pole dancing, which I love and cannot get enough of, not just for sexy fun times but also for exercise. I love holding onto it and wrapping my legs around my guy and getting fucked so hard. So good, plus you get the slight drop to get in even deeper. 

-Then the obvious the bed, which you can get many different toys for. Sheets that have cuffs to tie your partner up. 

Then there are the toys and extra fun things to use no matter where you are in the home. 

Toys can include:

Lubes. Dildos. Vibrators. Couples vibrators **We.Vibe is amazingly awesome! It stays in, comes with a remote if you get the newest one, rechargeable battery, and 6 different speeds, and great for alone time too.** Feather wands, paddles, belts, electrowands **absolutely crazy wands! Give you a slight shock, depending on your pain tolerance, just don’t put it down there unless you are prepared, wet makes it hurt more.** Anal plugs. Sexy Fetish Costumes. Animal Costumes.  Japanese Silk Rope **regular rope works too but may chafe.**  Knife Play.  BDSM. Master/Sub play.

Now, the above is for pretty much any type of couple out there. No matter if they are monogamous, polyamory or open. 

If you are one of the other 2 Main types, there are obviously sub types to both Poly and open relationships,  there are many other things you would do to spice up the relationship.  That will be in part 2.  

Good night everyone, and get your daily dose of sex or your mind will backup like RAM on a computer that has not been rebooted. 

Toys for One.

Since we are on the topic of pleasing ones self. 
Lets look into a few things that can help push it along. 


Obviously the first tool is getting yourself in the mood. 
Whether it is by reading erotica, watching video clips or movies, or using your own imagination.
By this point in your life, I would hope you know what can get you in the mood. 
From soft core, to hard core, girl on girl, boy on boy, three ways, orgies, S&M, beastiality ect. 


Personally, mine varies day to day, depending on what I am feeling. I start out at soft core, but that barely gets my heart pounding, going to some dirty three ways or S&M. My mind has yet to reach the animal stage, but that is where I drew my line. Personally, animals and defecation do not get my heart going all RAWR. However I am not mocking anyone who does, to each his own. 


After you figure out the thing(s) that make you all gooey, you need to find your tools of the trade.


The best tool in the world, will always be your hand. Good old righty or lefty. 
After asking around to friends, I have discovered a few objects that many people use, from items just around your home. 
-Vibrating toothbrush (most common)
-Vibrating shavers (I would be scared to try)
-Shower heads.
-Textured cloths.
-Hair brush handles.
-Ice cubes.
-Silk clothing.(Smooth and silky clothes are so amazing!)
-Socks.
-Stuffed animals.
-Certain types of veggies. (cucumbers, beware of carrots, they can actually puncture through the vaginal wall and cause internal bleeding.)
-EOS lipbalm (They are shaped like sex toys lol)
And so on. 
As you can tell, there are many things around the home that are free that you can use for your sexy fun times with yourself. 


Also, lubes or lube like products would be awesome, especially for men. 
Hand creams and some of the more sticky lubes can start to do this really gross dried skin ball effect going on. *Shudder* Anyways, if you are going to use hand lotion, use lots and don't use a heavy, sticky lotion, get a nice, light water based one. Same goes for lube. If it is just you time, you do not need a flavored one, or a sticky one.


For personal times, or when I am playing with my partner, I like to use JO Agape or Pjur Woman, flavorless ones that again, are purely for hands and toys. The best thing about the internet now a days, if you do not like going into sex shops, or have not found one that is clean and the shop keepers are not helpful, you can go online. 
They have all the products you could ever need, shipped in discrete packages, as long as you do not mind waiting the so many days for the products.
I have 3 different sex shops that I love going to. The workers are so nice and able to answer any question that I have. 


Now, that we have done free toys and lubricants, lets go into the paid toys. 


Starting with men.
Flesh lights, realistic asses/vagina, blowup dolls, even blowjob imitators! They have found so many wonderful ways to imitate female and male body parts and make them convenient and even travel size for the traveling man 
A few years ago, the TENGA was the top sex toy in Japan, It looks really funny, but apparently feels amazing. 


I don't know about you, but I have always wondered what it felt like to have a penis. I guess you could call it penis envy, I am going to call it penis curiosity. I just always wondered what it would feel like to have something warm and slightly tight wrapped around me. Mmm...


Anyways, on to female toys. 
The dildo or vibrating dildo are on the top list for alot of women.
I personally, do not like them much. I prefer the real thing inside me vs an imitation. 

I do however Adore little hand vibrators. RAWR!
They can fit in your purse or pocket, are very quiet, most are waterproof and can be very powerful!
In about 2-5 minutes you will be cumming your cares away.

This one site I use quite often, http://www.sex-toys-canada.com/vibrator.aspx not only has pretty much every toy available, for both men and woman and couples, but also gives a great little description so you know pretty much exactly what you are paying for and getting. 


From hand vibrators, DP(duel penitration) vibrators & strap-ons, waterproof vibrators, vibrating panties and even vibrating ducks for the bath and shower! 


What ever will float your boat and get you flying for the beginning of the morning, a pick me up in the afternoon or something to calm you down just before bed, you can get the most out of any toy or website. 


TIP: If you drive to work, or do not mind doing it in the bathroom or your office, a quickie with yourself, your hand or your little pocket friend, it really can help get rid of a lot of stress in the day. Just remember, if you are in a public area, bite your lip, noise is only for in the vehicle or at home, you don't want to be known as that person.